marriagestatsMy son is only 10 years old right now, but I’ve already started thinking about what i will tell him as he gets interested in women and marriage. Here’s a list.

  1. If at all possible, wait until after you’ve finished college and are more than 21 years old. [ref]What is the Best Age to Marry? (family.org)[/ref] [ref]Get Married in Your Late 20s If You’d Rather Not Get Divorced (nymag.com)[/ref] [ref]Want to Avoid Divorce? Wait to Get Married, But Not Too Long (family-studies.org)[/ref]
  2. Become the type of person you would like to marry.
  3. Focus on what you want to do in life, not on finding a mate.
  4. Don’t marry any of the first FOUR persons you have a crush on. The mathematical theory of Optimal Stopping predicts that any one you love after four is probably your best match.[ref]How To Marry The Right Girl: A Mathematical Solution (npr.org)[/ref]
  5. There is no perfect match. Only bad matches and good ones. Find up to four essentials you would like in a wife (e.g. faith, music, intellect, motorcycles) and look for those.
  6. Don’t marry someone who you can live with, marry someone you can’t live without.
  7. Make sure you enjoy each others’ activities as friends. You will be setting goals and activities together for a long time after the newness of guilt-free, risk-free sex wears off.
  8. Marry someone of the same faith. Faith mismatches can be very difficult during hard times because you will each run to separate places.
  9. Be serious about your own faith, one way or the other. Ambiguity and lack of commitment can bite you when times get hard.
  10. Pray and trust God to find you a mate despite your faults.